Let's start this ramble with a little excercise. Name the first memory or experience that comes up:
1. A shitty call at work.
2. Something that frustrates you.
3. Something that someone did that pissed you off.
Now these:
1. Tell me about a time someone gave you a sincere compliment. What were their words?
2. Tell me about a time someone did something really nice for you.
3. Tell me about something you've done that you are really fucking proud of.
Did the first or second half come easier?
Thought so.
Do you know why the bad shit comes up so much easier than the good? Because we've trained ourselves to let it. We don't resist the bad......yet.
It's the same reason why so many of us receive a compliment and immediately shy away from it, or instantly change the topic. We've hardwired it into our animal brain to dwell on whatever poses a threat so well, that we are hardly able to truly embrace and embody the good.
Simply put: we struggle to feel and notice all the good, because we have allowed it to hide in the shadows of the bad.
As daunting as that may sound; we can flip this, but first we have to get unstuck by working through the big shadows. We accomplish that by working through the tough stories that cast those big shadows. Once we have done this and freed up some real estate, the good instantly starts to become more visible. It allows our brain's reticular activating system to start dwelling on the good, and instinctively passing on the bad shit.
Think of it this way, imagine at the end of your rotation the stories that stick with you are the ones like:
- that awesome interaction with a kid that made his day
- when the stranger bought your coffee and asked nothing in return
- you let some of the many "thank you"s we get all the time really sink in
- you calmed someone down during what was very well the worst moments of their life
- you made someone feel safe
Versus what likely sticks now:
- the bullshit work drama and gossip
- a shitty public perception by a loud (but small) portion of the population
- the worst parts of the worst calls you attended that week
Best of all, those positives stuck with you without even trying.......dayum that'd be nice wouldnt it?
It's possible.
But first you have to put in the work.
Are you ready for the good to start showing up?
Hit me up here and I'll show you how.
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